Long-term relationships aren’t meant to feel like the beginning — and that’s not a problem. Early love runs on novelty and dopamine, while long-term love is built on safety, attachment, and nervous system regulation. When the spark feels different, it’s often a normal biological shift, not a relationship failure. This article explores why desire changes over time, how connection is rebuilt, and what actually sustains long-term love.

Every January, we convince ourselves that this time will be different.
New routines. Bigger goals. A cleaner, better version of ourselves waiting on the other side of motivation.

And for a moment, it works.

You feel energised. Focused. Hopeful.
That rush isn’t discipline — it’s dopamine.

Then life gets uncomfortable.
The excitement fades.
Your old patterns return.

And instead of questioning the system, you blame yourself.

But here’s the truth most people never hear:
Your resolutions don’t fail because you lack discipline — they fail because your biology was never designed to run on motivation.

Every year, it happens again — the Christmas overload.
We promise ourselves it’ll be calmer, simpler, more meaningful. But before we know it, we’re back in the loop: overcommitting, overspending, overstimulated.

This month’s BULLetin unpacks the science behind why the season of joy often leaves us flat, exploring how dopamine, stress, and habit drive the cycle of doing more and feeling less.
Learn how to step off autopilot, regulate your nervous system, and rediscover real joy in smaller, quieter moments — not just for Christmas, but for life.

Most apologies are empty. They’re a reflex, not repair. We say sorry to ease discomfort, patch tension, or keep the peace — but without change, it’s meaningless.

Behavioural science shows that real repair happens through aligned action, not polite words. When “sorry” becomes a shortcut, trust erodes and relationships stall. This piece explores how to move beyond performative apologies and create accountability that actually heals.

Life rarely follows the story we write in our heads. Jobs fail, relationships collapse, health takes a hit - and suddenly your life isn’t what you expected. The solution? Pivot.

Learn why facing reality, unhooking from old stories, and leaning into change is the real superpower for growth, resilience, and clarity.

When Progress Forgot the Nervous System

Feminism gave women access - but somewhere along the way, we lost the plot. High-achieving women are now exhausted, disconnected, and running on a blueprint that doesn’t fit their biology.